Self-awareness is an important trait. I believe it is especially important for consultants.
For each of us, there is some gap between reality and what we perceive. I believe one measure of humility (or pride) is this self-awareness delta. I also believe we can narrow this gap by engaging in exercises in intentional awareness. Which exercises?
Seeking Feedback
Asking others is a way of actively seeking feedback. I believe this requires confidence and thick skin, especially when the feedback we receive is negative.
Listen to the Feedback
This is especially true and simultaneously especially difficult of the negative feedback. You can choose to ignore negative feedback from mostly negative people. But consider that negative people are going to key on your (and everyone’s) faults, so don’t completely ignore their feedback.
Consider the value of de-constructive criticism. One aspect of constructive criticism is that it’s communicated in a neutral manner, perhaps similar to coaching. News flash: not everyone is a coach. That doesn’t disqualify them from providing accurate – and perhaps useful – criticism.
Apply Feedback
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like hearing criticism. My initial reaction is not, “Awesome! Now I know where I can improve!” I doubt I will ever feel that way, but I think I should.
I welcome your thoughts about self-awareness and feedback.
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Awesome, indeed, Andy! Absorbing room-for-improvement feedback constructively can be challenging–until you get used to it, it’s uncomfortable & even painful. A great way to get started is to listen to a recording from a speaking engagement. For those who’ve not done it, be prepared! No matter how many kudos you received, you’ll find the self-critique tough to take. I extend feedback to include criticism that often is anything but constructive by asking myself, "Hey, what role did I play in this, & how can I do better next time?" This is my favorite part of your post, "…My initial reaction is not, ‘Awesome! Now I know where I can improve!’ I doubt I will ever feel that way, but I think I should." In fact, we’re on the same journey here, Andy, that’s how I think I should feel,–& sometimes I even almost do. Thanks for the post.